How to Set Goals You’ll Actually Achieve

You’ve got big dreams, right? Maybe it’s running a marathon, eating healthier, or finally tackling that big project. But here’s the thing: dreams don’t just happen. Goals are the stepping stones to those dreams—and I’m here to help you make sure those goals don’t end up gathering dust.

1. Start Small and Dream Real

Let’s face it: we’re all guilty of trying to do too much too soon. You dive in with enthusiasm, only to burn out fast. Instead, think Goldilocks: set goals that are just right—big enough to push you but not so intimidating they send you running. Write it down and make it specific. Want to get in shape? “Walk 5 miles every week” is a lot clearer than “get healthy.”

2. Map Out the Road

Every big win starts with a solid plan. Don’t just set an end goal—break it into two parts: the product goal (the end result) and the process goals (the steps to get there). If you want to write a book, your product goal is a finished draft. But your process goals? That’s where the magic happens—like committing to write 500 words a day.

Reverse-engineering your goals makes them manageable. Work backward from the dream and figure out exactly what it takes to get there. Remember, success is in the details.

3. Get an Accountability Partner

Here’s the deal: you’ll hit roadblocks. Motivation dips, life gets in the way, and excuses creep in. That’s why accountability is your secret weapon. Whether it’s a coach (like me!), a friend, or a group of like-minded people, find someone who won’t let you off the hook. Don’t want to disappoint them? Great! Use that pressure to your advantage.

Patience is key here. Know that it’s going to take longer and feel harder than you expect. That’s normal. What separates winners from quitters is sticking it out.

4. Learn to Love the Grind

Listen, the journey matters as much—if not more—than the destination. Sure, your goal is shiny and exciting, but what about all the steps to get there? Finding joy in the process is the real secret to staying motivated long-term. Break it into bite-sized pieces, and celebrate every win along the way. Did you hit your weekly writing goal? High five yourself! It’s those small victories that add up.

Before you even start, take a moment to visualize the journey. If it excites you, you’re on the right path. If it feels heavy and restrictive, maybe it’s not the right time—or the right goal.

5. Enjoy the Finish Line—and the Road That Got You There

By the time you achieve your goal, you’ll realize something amazing: the process of showing up every day is the real reward. The big moment—whether it’s crossing a finish line or launching your dream business—is just the victory lap. Everything you’ve done up to that point is what truly transforms you.

Remember, goals aren’t just about checking boxes—they’re about growing into the person you want to become. So pick your goal, plan your steps, and let’s make it happen. I’ll be here cheering you on every step of the way.